Who's That Girl?

What is a unicorn? It is mythical horse-like creature typically depicted with a single, spiral horn on its forehead. In folklore, it is often seen as a symbol of purity, beauty, and rarity. The unicorn has also often appeared in various cultures’ mythologies and is sometimes associated with magical or healing powers.  

To your every day young girl or woman a unicorn is something that you’ve created in your mind that doesn’t really exist. I often have chats with friends and we talk about all these qualities we are looking for whether it be in a potential significant other, in our friendships or even in a boss or leader. Specific attributes like their character traits, morals, values or even physical aspects that you would want or hope for out of that specific friendship, relationship or employer that sometimes can make you feel like you are talking about a unicorn. It couldn’t possibly exist right?  Perhaps we should lower our expectations or our asks? Is that what we should be doing or telling ourselves? Well, I am here to remind you that you shouldn’t!   

Something I’ve been learning and reflecting on quite a bit is that you should never, ever lower your standards or expectations in anything in your life. You should always shoot for the stars and don’t give up on those things that you really want, need and ultimately deserve.  Maybe they are things you gave up on and pushed out of your mind due to failed attempts at finding them or several instances of disappointment. Maybe you told yourself it’s not possible. Whatever narrative you’ve played over and over in your mind you need to stop. Set those expectations high and don’t settle for anything less in anything in your life. As I’ve said many times in several posts, life is short and can be taken from you at any moment so why not aim for everything you want and more?  Don’t you owe that to yourself?  If there are things you want or need out of a relationship, friendship or your career then don’t try and convince yourself that you are being unrealistic because I am here today to tell you that those so called unicorns do exist.  

I have been blessed to have incredible bosses/leaders that were inspiring and motivating and that have pushed me to the next level throughout my entire career. Aim to work for those people because you spend more time at work than at home so make sure it’s a healthy place to be.  I have had friendships that are nurturing, fun, dependable and supportive and those are the people that should be in your circle so surround yourself with them.  Who you have around you is ultimately what you will have within you so choose wisely. 

I’ve been fortunate enough to have witnessed men that are empathetic, loving, respectful, devoted and where they have their shit together – truly being an equal partner rather than only providing a one-sided unhealthy relationship, so don’t give up looking for that if you are starting over in your life currently or are at a point where you are open to new possibilities of love. Don’t listen to the person selling you the picture of all your dreams and aspirations being fulfilled with the sun, moon and stars but rather the one that actually works with you to paint that picture and lifts you up to them.  The saying “if he wanted to, he would” is the perfect example to sum that up and it truly exists. 

So to those leaders and bosses I’ve worked for that have helped me grow professionally – thank you. To the friends that have been the laughter through some dark storms and the supportive listeners never making me feel badly for my thoughts and feelings despite not fully understanding – thank you.  And lastly, to the men who combine strength with compassion, intelligence with humility, and ambition with kindness that are always striving to be better while cherishing the people around them – thank you. 

In a world filled with greed and cruelty, you rare unicorns are a shimmering symbol of purity whose very existence on this earth is a quiet rebellion against the darkness all around.

xo LM