Who's That Girl?

It’s almost love day – otherwise known as Valentine’s Day.

Love is a complex thing and so I thought I would write about it before that big special day.

Love is those butterfly feelings, it is passionate, warm, kind, and gentle. It is a feeling of closeness, safety, commitment, attraction, and affection. Love is intense, a rollercoaster, confusing and even excruciatingly painful. Love is a long list of emotions and feelings which can be experienced over years with different people or even all of them within just one. So, if love is all those things, good and bad, why do we continually choose to subject ourselves to any or all of that?

Everyone is always looking for the perfect partner. Someone to share their heart with and to love unconditionally and hopefully for a lifetime yet so many people struggle to find that perfect someone and it can be for many reasons. Some people are never quite satisfied with that they have and are always looking for something better. Some people have certain expectations that need to be met and if their respective or potential partner does not meet those, then they may choose to walk away. Some people are just too damn nice and seem to get the wrong match despite all the good they give to someone and that can be a hard pill to swallow too.

I have never felt more loved as I do right now, and I can honestly say that it comes from lots of different ways, people, places and things. It is from the relationship I have built with my daughter and in the bond that we are building as she grows. It is in the relationship I have with my parents and how much they fill my heart with warmth, always, but even more so when they know I need that little extra helping of it. It is in the relationships I have with my friends who have shown me support, care and light in the darkest of moments, who continually cheer me on from the sidelines and who are also there in a flash with a glass of wine and a belly full of laughs to get me through the lower times too. It is in the warm snuggles from Minnie (my dog) on those colder winter nights. It’s in the words to a special or significant song sent to me by someone special.

So is it possible that we may all be focusing on all the wrong things to feel that sense of fulfillment when it comes to love? What if you have it all around you and just don’t realize it because it is in a different form? You can be filled with love from your family, your friends (both male and female) and even your career if you are lucky enough to be doing something that you are truly passionate about. You can get it from life’s simple pleasures like travel, food, or even your favourite hobbies. So why is it that people can feel as if they are not complete if they don’t have a significant other when we really have so much love filling our hearts from other places? Could it be people around you pressuring you, social media, television or the fact that Valentine’s Day is so commercialized with all the ads showing couples and making people feel as if they are not complete if they don’t have that person in their lives? Yet another way for people to feel inadequate or insignificant by not meeting the standards of what is portrayed out there.

So today, I don’t want to make this post about your typical love, I want it to be about the rest. I want everyone to not worry about feeling fulfillment on one specific day, or solely because of a partner but rather by sitting and basking in the love that surrounds us and that is given to us in so many other ways every single day. Reflect on all that surrounds you and feel that love deeply. And lastly, I am sending each of you reading this post love and light today and always.

LM