Who's That Girl?

Have you heard the famous quote that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime? Did it resonate with you? Ultimately it is about  learning to let people be what they are.

After yet another beautiful conversation with my special person and explaining what it was about, it in turn helped me reflect and make sense of exactly why some people were no longer part of my life. Their purpose was complete in my story.

Some people come into your life for a season, some for a reason, and a rare few for a lifetime. And the hardest part isn’t understanding that idea—it’s accepting which category someone belongs in when your heart may I want more.

The Ones Who Stay for a Season

Seasonal people arrive when something in your life is shifting. Maybe you’re healing, growing, or rebuilding. They feel like everything you needed in that moment—fun, comfort, distraction, or even stability.

But seasons change. And so can people.

These relationships often fade without a dramatic ending. There’s no betrayal, no clear breaking point—just a quiet drifting apart. It can leave you questioning what happened or wondering if you did something wrong.

Let me be the one to tell you – you didn’t.

They were never meant to be permanent. They were there to walk with you through a chapter, not the whole story. I can think of some particular people who were just that – a season. 

The Ones Who Come for a Reason

These are the relationships that shape you.

They teach you something—sometimes gently, sometimes in ways that crack you wide open. They might show you your worth, or they might force you to discover it on your own. They challenge your boundaries, your beliefs, and your capacity to love and be loved.

Often, these are the relationships that hurt the most when they end.

Because their purpose is powerful, not permanent.

And once the lesson is learned—whether you’re ready or not—they leave.

Looking back, you’ll see it clearly. But in the moment, it feels like loss instead of transformation.

Boy have I experienced this and when I looked at it from this perspective is when I started to find peace in what had happened. Will it fix everything or make it ok? No. But it helped me begin to heal for sure. 

The Rare Ones Who Stay a Lifetime

Lifetime people are different.

They don’t just show up when it’s easy or convenient. They stay through the messy middle—the growth, the setbacks, the changes. They see you evolve and don’t expect you to stay the same.

Letting Go of the Wrong Endings

These relationships aren’t always perfect or effortless. But they are consistent. Grounded. Safe.

They choose you, over and over again.

And you choose them right back.

What a beautiful gift to have these lifetime people. Cherish them. 

One of the most painful things we do is try to turn seasonal or reason-based relationships into lifetime ones.

We hold on longer than we should.

We overextend.

We try to fix, prove, or fight for something that was never meant to stay.

Not every ending is a failure.

Some endings are fulfillment. The relationship has already served its purpose.

There’s a different kind of peace that comes when you stop asking, “Why didn’t they stay?” and start asking, “What were they here to teach me?”

I often reflect on past relationships or friendships and am learning and growing from answering those exact questions. 

I began honouring what was without forcing what isn’t.  What a valuable lesson.

Every person who enters your life leaves something behind—a lesson, a memory, a version of yourself you didn’t know existed.

You don’t have to regret them to outgrow them.

You don’t have to resent them to release them.

And you don’t have to minimize what it meant just because it didn’t last forever.

Some people were never meant to be your always.  As hard as that pill can be to swallow, it’s true. 

But that doesn’t make them any less meaningful.

It just means their role in your story was different.

And maybe… that was exactly what you needed. 

So as you continue your journeys and experience life’s ever-changing reasons and seasons, my hope is that you, too, are blessed with those beautiful gifts that last a lifetime.

xo LM